Sunday, March 26, 2017

Another Update

Dear Readers,

I am going to have to take a step back from my blog. In the past week and a half, my family has been through three traumatic and emotional events.

  • My uncle overdosed on Xanax. Thankfully, he is okay and home now. But he was in a coma for a couple of days and was hospitalized. During that time my aunt, his wife, was arrested. 
  • My mother's landlord died a couple of weeks ago, and his wife decided this week that she is going to evict all tenants instead of continuing to rent out to them. My mother is disabled and moving is going to be difficult for her.
  • Finally, this past Friday, my child, my three-year-old baby, was in an accident. I will not go into details, but his arm is fractured. Despite having two boys, this is our first big injury, and I am a mess! On top of that due to the nature of the break CPS is now involved in our lives. I am not worried about that, but it is stressful to have people in and out of your home. 
During the next few weeks, I will be focusing on my family and my work. If you would like to reach out to me you can do so through my contact page, my email (polyloveandsex@gmail.com), or my twitter (@cpoly69). 

Thank you for your understanding, positive thoughts, prayers, whatever have you. They are all greatly appreciated. I am hoping to come back to the blog within 30-60 days. I hope you guys are still around when I come back.

XOXO,

C. Poly

Tuesday, March 21, 2017

Quick Update: Mental Health & Falling Behind

I was going to post on my twitter, but I know that a good bit of you guys do not follow me there. This is just a quick update because there won't be any new posts this week.

My mental health took a plunge this weekend, and I have not had the time to sit down and write out posts for this week. On top of that, I have fallen behind slightly in school and with work. I will be working on getting everything straightened out this week, and you can expect regular posts to start back up next week.

Until then, I'd appreciate positive thoughts.

Thank you.

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

My Views On Religion

I wrote this on facebook a while back. I wrote it for my friends and family who are always inviting me to church and later forcing their views on polyamory on me. 

There has been something that has been weighing on my mind heavily lately, and I am tired of tiptoeing around other people's beliefs and pushing mine aside. I want to start out by saying, if this offends you, please take yourself elsewhere. I don't have time nor patience for your negativity.   
With that said, I'll proceed. I am not a "Christian." I don't rightly know what to call myself. I don't feel like I conform to any religion. I know that I believe in a God, that I love and adore this God. But it's probably not the God you believe in.   
See, I believe in an all loving, all caring God. Having children of my own (who have free will) I know that creating something and then turning your back on it for its nature, is cruel and harsh. As a parent, I cannot understand how a "perfect" God, can do this. 
Let me elaborate a bit. If you get 2 people into a religious debate, one is going to say predestiny, and the other is going to say free will. There is no in between in this. They are opposite ends of the spectrum. So, which is it? Does the Bible say? No.   
Since I brought that book up, and we are talking about free will. Do you know how many times that book has been edited to fit the needs and thoughts of men? If you believe in predestiny, then you can say that God would not allow any edits to take place that he does not agree with. But if you believe in free will, then you admit that the Bible is very much like a 3,000+ game of telephone.  
If God has given us free will but made us in his image, then why is it that some things that come natural and feel natural and are deemed natural, are reasons for God to turn his back on his children? I'm not talking about murder or other unethical, immoral acts, but love, exploration, natural human actions! Why are these things that are MADE into our character, deemed as sins?  
No, I have spent a lot of thought on this, while tiptoeing around everyone's beliefs so that they will still accept and love me. But I am done. Most "religions" are hypocritical and do not follow the "golden rule." If you want to base your whole religion on love, why is there so much hate and negativity?   
Phew. I feel like a weight has been lifted. I feel... free. If you're still here, and there is no steam coming out of your ears, feel free to comment on some of my thoughts and questions. If there is steam coming out of your ears? I may ignore you... as I said before, I don't have time or negativity.
I'd love to hear you guys thoughts on religion, God, reactions to my thoughts, etc.  

Monday, March 13, 2017

Let's Celebrate Steak & BJ Day!

Ah, Valentine's Day! This year PolyHubby treated me to a couple of new toys, a night out, and a bag full of fabulous goodies. While I did buy him gifts and fun things, too, it's obvious that this holiday is aimed at women. Most men just don't get the right attention on Valentine's Day. Cue Steak & BlowJob Day! 

Valentine's Day falls on February 14th, and exactly one month later on March 14th, men get their day. This will be PolyHubby's and my first year celebrating. To be fair, this is our first year celebrating because I can never remember the date, but this year, I made an effort (aka put it in my calendar) to remember! 

In light of our first year celebrating, let me share the recipe for steaks I'll be using this year and some awesome blowjob tips with you! 

Since this will also be my first time cooking a steak and wanting it to be amazing, I will be following this recipe. Although, I am unsure if that is actually a recipe. I will also be serving instant mashed potatoes with chopped bacon, parmesan cheese, and garlic and corn on the cob. 

While the steaks and taters will be fantastic, I'm sure that the BJ will be even better. See, I've been reading up on blowjob tips and practicing for quite some time now. While I've never had any complaints about my technique, I really want to surprise PolyHubby. So, here are the top 3 tips I have come across during my research.

1. Don't be afraid to get messy. When giving a blow job don't swallow your spit, use it! The messier, the better. And use your hands. I can't deepthroat, so I let my saliva run down my man's shaft and use that as lube to perform a hand job on the section I can't reach with my mouth.

2. That brings me to my second tip: Use your hands! Use them on his shaft, his balls, when your mouth gets tired, while you're licking. Use your hands on his balls, his perineum, his anus (if he's into that), yourself. Just use your hands. 

3. Finally, don't worry. As long as you're not using your teeth and you are focusing on his pleasure, you are doing a great job! Pay attention to how he reacts when you swirl your tongue around the tip of his cock or when you juggle his balls and keep doing whatever he reacts best to! 

Steak and blowjob day is men's Valentine's Day. It's only fair that I put as much thought and care into planning this day for PolyHubby as he did for me on Valentine's Day! What's your favorite way to cook a steak? What are your best blowjob tips? 

Friday, March 10, 2017

Noveltrove: A Novel Idea for Erotica

Erotica

Reading and writing erotica has always been a favorite pastime of mine. I read it online and in print. I seek out new authors, pieces that cater to my fetishes, and even indulge in reading some taboo pieces. Erotica is a fantastic way to learn about new kinks and explore your deepest fantasies without having to lift more than a finger.

I read erotica in the same way most of the population watches porn. While I can’t get into a video, it takes no time at all for me to get lost in the words of a story. Thankfully, like porn, there are many paid and free options available to help me get my fix.

Wednesday, March 8, 2017

BThrilled Has Me Thrilled - Daily!




Introduction

Before the BThrilled I had only tried one other BSwish vibrator, the Bgee, and it was a sore disappointment. It felt cheaply made, had a turn dial, and the vibrations were too buzzy and loud. The Bgee was not only my first BSwish product but also my first g-spot vibrator. Sadly, it failed in that department, too.

I was doing research about a month ago on upcoming and new products when BSwish once again was brought to my attention. I browsed through their new products and contacted a representative. We agreed upon the BSwish BThrilled Classic Wand and it was promptly shipped to me!

Monday, March 6, 2017

Kink by Doc Johnson: A Review


Introduction 

Doc Johnson has been around since 1976 and has been a big name in the sex toy industry for as long as I can remember. They offer a wide range of adult products from dildos to their popular Good Head product line of throat numbers for, well, good head. I was offered to review items in the Kink line and I'm excited to tell you guys about them!

Friday, March 3, 2017

Link Roundup: My Favorite Posts From February 2017


Yay! Another Roundup! 

It's that time again!! The time when I share my favorite posts from the previous months and maybe introduce you guys to some awesome bloggers you haven't found on your own yet! Again, I'm staying away from reviews, because there are just so many great reviews. Instead, I bring you some amazing reads to get you thinking, feeling, or laughing.

Ableism In Sex Toy Manuals — Can We Not? by Erika Lynae

Apparently it is a common occurrence for sex toy companies to alienate the disabled community. This is news to me. Disgusting, upsetting news. But still, I wasn't aware of this before reading Erika's post on it. 

Wednesday, March 1, 2017

February Goal Recap & New Goals for March

It's that time again. The time of the month where I recap on the goals I set last month and set new goals for this month. This project has really helped me to see that I suck at sticking to personal goals. While I did not meet all of my goals, I did meet some I hadn't written down!

I got my house completely and utterly clean. I purged so much junk and stuff that I don't need that I now have too much space!

I got my tiny humans on a schedule and the house seems to run more smoothly.

Monday, February 27, 2017

I'm Not A T-Shirt - A Poem

I wrote this around this time last year. I had just gone through a breakup and wasn't feeling good, mentally. I was upset and felt unwanted. Breakups aren't always this bad in polyamory. But when someone leads you on for months, letting you believe that they are okay with the lifestyle, only to drop you, it hurts.

I apologize for not posting on my set schedule. I am working on a couple of reviews for you guys and I ran into some issues. I hope you can forgive me and that you enjoy the reviews! Until then, enjoy this poem!